Coping rejection dating
Which means you now have more time to improve yourself and explore your options. Honestly, if you constantly feel like someone is not treating you with respect, check your price tag. If you don’t value and respect yourself, wholeheartedly, no one else will either. All too often we let the rejections of our past dictate every move we make thereafter.
Perhaps you’ve subconsciously marked yourself down. Because it’s YOU who tells others what you’re worth by showing them what you’re willing to accept for your time and attention. We literally do not know ourselves to be any better than what some intolerant person or shallow circumstance once told us was true.
I am tired all day, but I don't seem to be tired enough when everyone else is going to bed.
I was having problems before my husband died, but now it is a LOT worse.
As you look back on your life, you will realize that many of the times you thought you were being rejected from someone or something you wanted, you were in fact being redirected to someone or something you needed.
Seeing this when you’re in the midst of feeling rejected, however, is quite tough. As soon as someone critiques, criticizes, and pushes you away – as soon as you are rejected – you find yourself thinking, “Well, that proves once again that I’m not worthy.” What you need to realize is, the other person or situation is NOT worthy of YOU and your particular journey. There isn’t a soul on this planet that doesn’t feel a small fraction of their heart break at the realization of rejection.
When a Mr Unavailable or assclown rejects ‘you’, it is actually more about rejecting: having to love having to communicate having to be emotionally available having to care having to empathise having to recognise someone’s needs other than their own having to be trusted having to be relied upon having to be respectful having to recognise your boundaries having to be committed having to be expected or needed having to deliver on the words that come out of their mouths having to make an effort and having to think.
But they are surface things and when it comes to character, value, substance, women who persist in the self-fulfilling prophecy and wonder why these chumps don’t want them while chasing them for validation, believe that there is something unlovable about them.
In fact, the problem with being involved with Mr Unavailables and assclowns, is that we develop a nasty habit of assuming that if something is wrong in the relationship or it fails, it must be something we ‘did’ and we assume all of the responsibility for trying to make the relationship a success.
I have come across countless women through this site who have talked about how smart, funny, educated, financially independent, attractive they are and all that jazz and how they can’t believe that the ex con/the guy who was nothing before her/the broken man with a litany of problems/the guy who kept using One Time in Bandcamp stories of being let down by a woman/the habitually jobless guy/the 40 year old that lives with his mum/the 50 year old that lives with his mum/the flip flapper/the guy who is dating several women/the cheat/the beater/the narcissist, the sex addict and the list rolls on, doesn’t want her.
Are you really that surprised that a man who is disconnected from his emotions and dodging the commitment bullet and/or totally lacking of character and values, doesn’t want to be in a relationship with someone who will ‘expect’ from him?